It’s a personal development myth. . .
“You should always feel your feelings.”
In an era where many spiritual seekers fall prey to the curse of “over-processing,” it’s important to look at when it’s helpful to feel your emotions and when it’s not helpful.
In certain situations, feeling your feelings can keep your own unconscious dysfunction in play.
In the last two weeks there were several times where uncomfortable emotions surfaced for me. I could have chosen to suppress them instead of feeling them. Or I could have processed them for hours when it was just my body and mind’s biological and chemical habits that had been retriggered (a habit I was trying to change).
In this week’s Awaken TV episode, I give you 4 examples of when intense feelings might arise.
- I believe two of these examples fall into the category called NOT THE TIME to feel your feelings
- And the other two examples fall into the category called A HEALTHY TIME to feel your feelings
These important distinctions could help you to have more beneficial conversations with those close to you versus getting tied up in the usual emotional knots.
Knowing when it’s best to process emotions and when it’s not the time could also help you to unpack why you might procrastinate with important things.
Watch the video here.
Much love,
Rachael Jayne
Thank YOU !!!
Personally I will need to process your words until they are comprehended emotionally …HA.
Very true….though I try to avoid the word “should”….Maybe a title like-Best Times to Hold Off on Feeling Your Feelings…just a pet peeve of mine… 🙂
I truly appreciated this information. There is a real emphasis on feeling our feelings in the spiritual culture now, and I find that there are times when that is not always appropriate. Getting sucked into a groove/habit that only deepens the more I focus on it is not helpful, and I really appreciated the distinction! The different categories and the examples you gave were very concise and very helpful.
Great distinctions as always Rachael Jayne, thank you.
Thank you 🙏🏼
I opened this video minutes after I had just found out that I had been scammed of $17,000 on an online stock trading platform. The emotion is unfamiliar as this was a first time venture.
I’m still dwelling on mixed emotions but being an overall positive person I’m trying to go with “the lesson” doesn’t seem to want to fit with the anger, frustration, self doubt & sadness of the financial loss. As a long time sufferer of severe clinical depression I’m feeling a state of shock right now. Trying to prevent a downhill slide in mood. 🤦🏼♀️
Great!!