This weekend I had an interesting reading from a medical intuitive.
I was quite impressed when he zeroed in on my back injury within seconds along with a few other parts of my body where I am susceptible to discomfort.
The feedback that I wasn’t quite expecting was about my tendency to “over-give” and how I find it hard to say “no.”
It’s been a big and busy week here. In the midst of everything my attention has been more on how little I have been “filling myself up” lately.
This week I want to check in with you about how much you are filling yourself up.
Being “full of yourself” in this sense is crucial if you are going to live a life of great meaning and happiness.
Those who are “full of themselves” are world changers in the best possible way. Those who are “full of themselves,” are able to grow their business, not slow their business. Those who are full of themselves are happier.
If you are not full, you are playing a no-win game of “if I just help others enough then I will feel full.” You have to fill yourself first.
Watch me talk about the 3 ways that I always want you to be “full of yourself” so you can make a bigger difference but not burn out.
I’d love to hear from you with your answer to this important question:
How do you know when you are out of balance? What is your barometer to know you are over-giving?
Post a comment below, and remember:
You should always be giving to yourself as much as anyone else.
Much love,
I love this episode! I have been feeling very similar lately, so this is a good reminder for me 🙂
Thanks for sharing, Andreea. I’m glad the video could help you in some way.
Great reminder Rachael Jayne. Feeling full of your self is ‘not done’ in The Netherlands either. But now that I am slowly learning this, it feels so good. To not shrink around others, but to stay full. My barometer is resentfulness, judgements and getting headaches. Sometimes I get fulfillment from walking, very often from creating random artwork and sometimes from just sleeping a lot and forgetting about the clock. Funny thing is too that after having been really ill for over a week I feel so full of myself now!! Thinking about how much I love you is also very fulfilling 🙂 Blessings
I’m so glad to hear you’ve developed ways to be full of yourself, Wilka!
Rachel dear,
I admit that I am an overgiving person. I really find it so hard to say “No” to friends that I trust without proofs. I easily find myself sharing my life, time, efforts and resources with people around me in every problem they seem to radiate. I love to help. Unfortunately, opportunists take advantage of me;
thus, I find myself wallowing in loneliness and frustrations.
Thank you for sharing to be “full of myself”. I realized that I have to move on and stop hurting needlessly.
A lot of self-fulfilling activities are lined up for me “one thing at a time”.
I will be happy !
What a great attitude!
I have asked for Sunday morning off so I can go to a dance which is 3 hours away in Victoria, and not have to drive back in the small hours to be back for an hour care-giving shift for a lady where I live. I am anticipating a yes to the request, as it is more likely to happen if I hold that vision.
Positive thoughts, Victoria!
Such an important topic. It happens to be a pillar of the book I’m writing: Living Generously. Being generous with oneself is just as important as being generous with others.
Thanks for all the great info you share!
You’re welcome, Sharon, and good luck with your book!
Thanks Rachael Jayne! This arrived at the best possible moment for me.
I have just uncovered and ejected som deep-seeded dysfunctional response mechanisms that I have struggled with most of my life. Response mechanisms that have contributed to being constantly running on empty. I am re-tuning and adjusting right now.
Taking time to discover my barometer for “fullness” is essential for my survival. I have been burned out 3 times, so being true to me and uncovering how to be “full” of myself and what the indicator is, is a stroke of genious!
Thanks again!
You’re very welcome, Kay. Take good care of yourself!
Thank you Rachel Jayne. We in Sweden are supposed to be in the middle…not too little and not too much 🙁 so I am trying to learn think differently.
And just now I think I have been too “giving” . So this was a great reminder for me ! Thank you!
Excellent point Rachael Jayne! I realized I needed to fill myself up when years ago I came to a point that I was so empty from giving so much to others and nothing to me, that I felt like a victim, and life did not make any sense at all anymore! Since then, I have become more and more conscious of filling myself up, without apologizing to others for it ! Now you’ve made it crystal clear for me; when I start feeling like a victim of someone or some situation, I will know now that I am over giving and I need a fill up 🙂 Thank you .