Why do we sometimes fall into a near-depression after something really good happens?
It happened to me recently, in a pretty big way. It came as quite an unwelcome surprise.
Tune in to this week’s Awaken TV and find out what happened to me, and hear some important tips on how to manage your emotions so you don’t fall into the trap of beating yourself or going deeper into a depression or inaction.
I’d love to know your thoughts on this dynamic and what you do when your ‘emotional pain body’ is activated.
Much love,
Thank you, Rachael Jayne!
This message was so very timely. I can relate to this very feeling quite a bit lately. As I take leaps and call on courage in my business … it often feels a bit crazy-making; like I’m on a roller coaster! The highs and the lows are quite palpable and often shift within the same day. For me, it makes me think of that silly quote from Dory in Finding Nemo: “Just keep swimming.” Despite the lows, I DO know I’m on the right path for me … so the “fail-safe” thing to do is to just keep going. One day, one decision at a time.
And, I’d like to share a bit on what I remind myself when really IN THE MIDST of the ‘low,’ ‘downward spiral’ state: I mock up or create space for it (aka. allow it to be in my space – but to have some ROOM, for the love). Then … I ‘turn on’ my inner energy. Turn on that life force that exists regardless of emotional state. Done. I merely ride the storm and trust that I’ll rise back up. Ah, the flow to the ebb. (it has always been so in the past so why would this go-round be any different, right?) 🙂
Just keep swimming …
With Love,
Julie Larkin
Denver/Golden CO
Hi Julie, Thank you very much for sharing this! It is so important to remember to keep your inner energy present. You’ve got this girl!
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Hi Rachael,
I love your style and positive energy you bring to your videos! Thanks for sharing!
I’m not sure I understand what you mean by ‘abundance limit’? Would you mind elaborating a little more on that please?
This week I had an epic week of breakthroughs, milestones reached and reasons to celebrate – A LOT! And I’ve been over the moon!!! And then – crash, boom, bang. Haha. It’s like, ok – now what?
It hasn’t made sense to me why I’d be feeling low after hitting such great highs.
But I think the reason for me, is that it’s not possible to live in that ‘state’ of absolute high continuously – well, maybe it is, but I’m sure our bodies would become exhausted after a while 😉 And without the duality of highs and lows – how would we know either?
The thoughts that happened to me after my highs were, ‘now what’, ‘how am I going to maintain this’ or ‘how am I going to improve on this now’, or ‘now I’ve got to deliver on everything I’ve said I would, will I be able to’.
And I think it just all boils down to trust. Trust in self that I can and will. Trust that we have all the support of the Universe to be, do and have all we want. And to trust that life is exactly the way it’s meant to be in every moment.
I loved how you ended off your video – be in the moment, now and just be with whatever comes up. I think ‘allowing’ creates movement sometimes beyond what we’re even able to imagine!
Thank you for all your sharing! Love it 🙂
Hello Rachael Jayne,
Wow, perfect timing on this video. This is me today! I’ve just had a potent expansion of inner-shifting that coincides with the blossoming of my work, my website, my online course and coaching, my clients. I can feel myself at the precipice, and it is so exciting. Two days ago I was brimming with new diagrams, ideas, thoughts, and enthusiasm. Today, I’d really rather be in bed and it’s taken me all morning to get to my desk. Such perfection to be greeted by this video. In my experience of myself, I notice that after an expansion it becomes necessary for the responding contraction. I sometimes confuse that contraction with “something is wrong”, “I’m depressed” or “what needs to change?”. But no longer! As my understanding of how energy works, how much my body/being can hold and integrate at any one time, or how to best serve my bodies system and not overload those systems, the contractions becomes a time of a little deeper self care, of gently responding instead of condemning, of asking to be held or served in some way, instead of pulling myself up by my bootstraps to simply plow through. I see it now as a time of gentle reflection and rest. Today, I move easily through my day, and and gentle about how that might look. Sending Love!! Kim
So glad this was able to help you! Isn’t it crazy how the right thing that you need to hear always pops up at the right time? 😉 You’ve got this!
Rachael Jayne:
Thank you for this insightful teaching. I LOVE inner work. I love shadow work. I love deep journeys within my psyche. I could live there, but I have learned not to . . . . because it keeps me out of action. 🙂
So, when my emotional pain body is activated, I sit with it for a bit. I feel into it. I ask it to inform me of anything I need to be aware of. Then I let it go.
I used to get caught in the trap of assigning a story to the activation of my pain body. As you said, I went looking for the “why.” Why do I feel this way? What caused this? Now, I just acknowledge it, and I ask for Guidance; if there is anything I need to know or be aware of.
If it is a particularly heavy or deep pain, I will allow myself an hour or a day to be with it. Then, I move on. Years ago, I would have been taken out for months by this kind of pain body activity. Now, I acknowledge it, give it place, breathe into it, feeeel it and release it. It makes life much easier and more joyous!
Thanks for Being YOU, Rachael Jayne! – Karen Turner, Scottsdale, AZ
This is a great way to put it all 🙂 Very glad you have acknowledged all of this!
Thank you Rachael and everyone for your helpful comments. Perfect timing for me too. Having a tough time doing what I planned for today after experiencing a high and now a letdown following. I just wanted to crawl back into bed. So I did for about 15 minutes while my cat showed me some love. Then I forced myself to go for a walk and enjoyed nature for 45 minutes. I will get through this day and tomorrow is whole new day!
Bev
Nature and animals have a way of bringing us back to our “high” moments 🙂 Thank you for sharing Bev!
Thanks for the video. My thoughts do not go to “Contraction” or “emotional pain body”. But rather to the tidal waves of life itself…. And that is not even synominous to ups and downs. Rather a parallel with active and resting. Wouldn’t it be logical that after lots of excitement, wins, triumphs .. there would be a time to really take it in from a point of ….rest…. ? I mean : the brain needs a lot of water to do it’s work. Wouldn’t that apply to succes as well? In the form of water or … rest?
That’s my phylosophical take on it… but ofcourse I do recognize the phenomena…. But… I try to get out of this whol psychological explaining. I suggest there is a more natural explanation to it as well.
Hmm interesting thought Judith! I’ll ponder on this a little more. Thank you for sharing.
Wow – You’ve completely described a feeling I get on a weekly basis as I leave a class where I am studying something about which I am passionate. And yet having just been “filled up” I always feed a little cranky and depressed as I am driving home. I will now view those feelings as a positive thing my body is doing to keep me from “exploding” with joy. And now I can acknowledge the feeling and know that the joy hasn’t left — it’s just hanging out in a safer place!
Thank you — and you look gorgeous (and I love the soft curls in some of the new pictures!)
Exactly! It helps to prevent some of the negative feeling when you know the positive feeling is just around the corner again protecting itself… 🙂
I get what you shared, however, wonder … how would you say “abundance limit” serves us? I would describe that let down in words other than abundance limit. I’d say it is our emotional domain managing expectations. I see the let down as an emotional reminder of the continuum we travel. I also believe it is a physiological response … the body has been in a state of heightened emotion (excitement, maybe) and experiences let down since the catalyst for the excitement is gone (i.e., the experience is over).
I’d love your thoughts.
Irene
I agree with what you have said. I had a dream come true experience in late September and was immediately down (and safe from continued expansion thereafter). I went with the downward spiral and have been experiencing emotional and physical pain ever since and it is mid November! It is as if my body, mind and spirit is duking it out. In my case, bumping into this abundance wall limitation has been longer term (weeks instead of days) but it is definitely TEMPORARY as you have pointed out. I’ve been through this before and I know who wins!!
You’ve got this Yvonne! It will all come to be good soon… sending you some positive thoughts but you’re on the right track! 🙂
I liked the explanation of what this dynamic is of feeling down after an up and how/why it works, but I missed the important tips on how to manage your emotions so you don’t fall into the trap of beating yourself or going deeper into a depression or inaction. Is it preventable? Can you get out of it faster somehow? How do you manage it when you’re in it, so it doesn’t get worse? I would’ve loved seeing that explained step by step. Other than that, great video, keep on doing what you do!
I think I know exactly what you are talking about – feeling so totally completely uncomfortable in my own body after a nice shift either in my behaviors or outcomes. At this point I can fortunately see that feeling uncomfortable isn’t any reason to back off or berate myself – I’ve done it often enough in the past, it only made me feel worse – but is just like wearing new shoes that are, still, really uncomfortable. Just like I have been wearing shoes until they felt comfortable and I could really enjoy them, with enough determination and detachment, I can also grow into the new me or my new life, although it may not be easy and take time.
Love the shoe analogy Annette! Thanks for sharing 🙂
hi, i suffer from this on a weekly basis as i do some of the most amazing things in life & surround myself with entertainment & music icons. the rush last for 2-3 days, sometimes longer. but then i crash hard back to reality. so what i have done is work on my own reality so that the high is more of a regular than the lows. i hate the word mundane so i’m always looking for the fun & outlandish. yes it can be very addicting but i find that when i apply this same energy doing the mundane things in life i start to really enjoy them more than not. i like putting myself in new places with new people & i run if i encounter negative energy as i do not allow it any more than i have to by the laws of ying & yang. take care & please join me on my page .www.facebook.com/shinydiamond
Hi Diamond, That’s a great outlook on it! If you are applying your positive energy to everything then it can allow you to keep a positive outlook! Just remember not to be ignoring other emotions and acknowledging them and their power as well. Cheers!