You’ve probably heard of Dear Abby.
Now introducing. . . Dear Datta.
After all, we often need a conscious, masculine male’s non-holds-barred take on love, sex, spirituality, conflict, and whatever other hot topics we can throw at him.
Tune in to this week’s episode of Awaken TV to see how Datta responds to his first question from a woman in our community about how we best deal with a partner or friend when we are not happy with them breaking agreements.
For anyone in a relationship, there is some important wisdom that Datta shares about inter-personal communication. It’s particularly for anyone who is feeling a little frustrated with someone they are in relationship with right now.
Now, it’s your turn to practice. How are you going to share your upset in a different way this week?
Datta and I would love to hear from you.
What questions would you like Datta to answer in the next Dear Datta episode?
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Much love,
Love this!
So great to have dear Datta a returning item. Looking forward to seeing more of him and hearing more wisdom!
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Thanks for your post, Elsewine!
~RJ
Thanks for the vote of confidence, Elsewine! I’ll do my best.
Setting clear parameters, what a great tip Datta! Thank you! I’ve been in a love relationship for 20 years + somehow I missed this crucial piece of communication. I know it’s going to make a difference now, thanks again.
Wonderful to hear, Vanessa- so glad Datta and this week’s topic can help!
~RJ
Thanks for mentioning it, Vanessa. Happy to be of service.
Wonderful to also receive Datta’s inspiring, honest and wise words. It is a GREAT reminder to be more clear AND to respect the sensitivity of interaction. I love you advise Datta. Looking forward to more.
Oh, and really, Rachael’s reminder that everything is temporary is really important for me today. Thank you both!
You’re so welcome, Wilka. It makes us both happy to hear we are both able to help in some way this week! Have a wonderful rest of the week and weekend.
~RJ
Great idea. Great answer but I think it should have had a really serious problem in the answer – just to show that the idea can be applied there also.
My problem is that my wife of 18 years still adores me too much; a problem most partners would like to have. She is too needy and is overly sad when I travel and is afraid that I may die before her (I am 22 years older than she is). How can I get her to love herself more? How can I get her to realize that love is not measured in miles or time but in feeling?
Thank you,
Hugh
Hi Hugh,
My husband and I have been working through that one. There’s this dance back and forth for both of us between wanting some autonomy, but also wanting intimacy and connection. When we first got together, he was busier and away more, and I was often the one “left behind”, and we are now in the opposite situation. The key for us has been to realize that the feelings about being “left behind” don’t really have anything to do with our current relationship with each other, but instead are leftovers from childhood experiences. Healing those childhood experiences has made it much easier to really appreciate what we have, rather than feeling fear or sorrow about potential loss.
Best Wishes, Jackie
Thanks for that contribution based on your personal experience, Jackie. Good insights!
Great question, Hugh.
There are actually a few relevant questions there. First of all, when you are around your wife, give her your full attention and awareness, even if you think that may not be called for. Not that you can’t be doing something else. You can- just keep some attention on her. That will help the times when you are not around. Whether you are around or not, remind her that you are thinking of her, and of how much you care.
Give that a 30-day trial and see how it goes. Let me know what changes for you.
Hope that was helpful.
All the best to you both,
~Datta
I love the idea of “Dear Datta”! Wonderful to have you both sharing your wisdom and insights to support us all! : )))
Thanks, Amara!!
~RJ
Thanks Amara, I will try to not let you down 😉
Hello Datta. this is the first I am posting a question, I have been in a relationship for 7 years my partner is 77years I am 61 both our spouses died, I am a business woman he is retired, I have been asking him to make a commitment to me for a while now but he keep saying he is too old to get married, also he is not a very easy person to live with, to give a small eg. negative all the time, not encouraging, eats over too much and believe all women should do as a man says. and much more, what do you recommend. Thanks , Jennifer.
Hi Jennifer, and sorry I missed your post before. A couple of things come to mind. First of all, while I do believe in marriage as a formalization of commitment (that really does make a difference despite what the cynics say) it is not the only way to be in a committed relationship. I have seen many examples of deeply committed couples who never married and had (or still have) very long-term committed relationships. I absolutely believe that commitment is the biggest component in any long-term relationship.
Regarding your “also,” ultimately we need to make our own decisions about what works for us and what doesn’t in any relationship. I feel it’s important to understand that “what we see is what we are going to get.” Sure, people can change, but usually they don’t.
Hope that’s helpful.
Love the Dear Datta episodes! A possible topic of exploration for a future episode: tips and tricks for striking a healthy balance between professional and personal life for couples who are business partners.
Great suggestion, Lisa. Very relevant to many of us, and something I get asked in person quite often.
Hi,
I would love to hear advice/guidance on the following subject.
I recently experienced a betrayal regarding an online affair. I know I love my husband but can not be intimate at this time. How does one repair a relationship in the intimacy department? It is almost as if I have to fall in love all over again. Do I make any sense?
Great to be able to ask questions to Datta, thank you Rachael Jayne and Datta for the opportunity. Now my question to Datta is: Last week a man came back into my life, we met way back in 1966 at dance class and we liked each other then, we kind of went out together but not for very long. I was 15 and he was 17. A couple of years ago at a school reunion we briefly met and spoke. The other day 48 years later he rings my mothers doorbell, leaves a note for me asking to connect. My Mum phoned me and so I connected and then he send me an email saying that having a dance with me at that time way back was one of the most impressive moments in his life and if I would be interested to be in touch. My question to you is: do you believe him when he says that the dance in 1966 was one of the most impressive moments or is he just making things up trying to impress me? In the same email he shares openly about his divorce from his wife and that the divorce happened because he always had affairs with other women and is still going out with the last one now. So I am wondering why would he contact me out of the blue? I would love to hear your male point of view on this, thanks a lot Datta, love Anne