There’s a saying that goes something like this…
The only thing you have to give up to create your new life is your old life.
Therein lies a big problem.
It’s human nature to fear giving up what is stable, secure, and known.
Have you ever had the thought, “I don’t want to sacrifice what I love to eat,” even when you know that to stop eating bad stuff is going to help you lose weight, look great, and feel better?
Have you ever thought, “I don’t want to sacrifice the things I love to do with friends and family, just to build my business,” or “I don’t want to give up my freedom to have this or that.” On the surface these statements can look wise, spiritual, and lovely. It’s good to not push yourself, right? But look more closely at this dynamic. You don’t have to give up all of these things, but the mind tends to think in black and white.
Sacrifice? No way! That is what the mind says more often that we are aware of.
Here’s a simple, quick exercise that can help you not be so scared of sacrificing something from your current life to gain your new, more exciting, abundant life.
You have to give up some old stuff to get new stuff. There’s no way around it. You have to train your body and mind to sacrifice in order to have the magical experiences most people will never have.
This exercise will help and show you that what you think looks like sacrificing and losing something is actually about liberation and gaining.
Watch it here:
Much love,
Rachael Jayne
It’s true working at developing my own products and projects instead of someone else’s is giving up theirs to give to myself my own value that I have something of value to contribute to humanity too
Thanks good reminder
I’m sure there is more for me to find too
Thank you, Rachael Jayne. Very inspiring.
Thanks for this, Rachael Jayne! Mine were pretty similar to yours — free/alone time, play and fun, a strong romantic partnership. I’m going to tap on them! Love and blessings, Vicki
How funny, I put the video on pause and wrote my three things and judged them as being the ‘wrong’ answers ‘. Then when I pressed play and heard yours they were the same lol 😉
I want to let go of the subconscious beliefs that de value me
I want to let go of fears that i wont recieve a new life.
I want to let go of the past to completely be in embodiment of the prescence
Thank you, Rachel Jayne. Those are good questions and your answers are very similar to my own. I will be considering these questions and jotting more items down.
I tussle with the idea of discipline as it feels like a heavy “should”. It elicits an internal “don’t tell me what to do” as if I was doing it because someone told me to, not because I choose too.
Freedom is a high value for me these days. What popped up like a billboard sign as I sat with this was: UNRESTRICTED DISCIPLINE = FREEDOM!
That one word, “unrestricted”, may sound contradictory – but it places discipline in my choice, not from any external influence, and feels more expansive than restrictive. thx!
Thx!
My acupuncture practice
Time with my wonderful husband
Time for travel
I’ve been thinking about big goals and dreams for a while, and your question was framed differently so thank you! This was an excellent shake up for me, and its liberating for me to speak the truth here. What I have been afraid of losing and giving up are different:
– the security of not making a “no matter what” decision/cutting off other options and actually doing what will be necessary; I have my excuses, if I give them up and really go for it and I’m not wildly successful, then I risk losing my big life dream actually happening…. then what will I do? what will that say about me?
– defining myself by my previous successes, as those experiences always got a “wow” from others – yet isn’t relevant to the reinvented me and dream.
– my privacy around sharing my innermost vulnerabilities and admitting my own fears, as I expect that I will need to share of myself much more publicly than I have in 1:1 situations – using stories, speaking about what I feel/have felt. I have not been part of marketing myself on social media in any way shape or form. I don’t want to look like I’m NOT confident or “have it together.” (grin)
Again, thanks for this! I’m carrying it with me.
Rachael Jayne, I love this video! Because I came home from Golden with the question: What must I give up, that is holding me back from having time and freedom to grow my business and my new life work. I came to a hard decision:
#1- Giving up my 36 year career as church Music/Liturgy Director. What I hate is disappointing the choir and congregation, all who love and appreciate me, and say I’m the reason they come to this church! I know my leaving is going to feel quite devastating to them. I’m also feeling I will lose their respect, since I always said I told my Dad I would stay here til I die. I’m going back on that.
But I am doing it, and I’m already making arrangements to get it done in a way that comes from Love and grace. I know it’s time to retire, but it is a wonderful diving board to spring from so much spirit into the rest of what I am called here to do for spirit in the world. I’m feeling right and good about this decision now.
The other 2 things are like yours…
#2 – my alone time to come into each day’s flow in a peaceful, present way.
#3 – My creativity time, including music.
More than those “fears of change” I feel strongly clear after Golden on exactly what I am going to see manifest and the steps to get there. With the wonderful ongoing help from Groover Team, I feel damned good about finally taking the steps I now can envision and do. It knocks my sox off just to envision them!
It’s like I’m on a bungee chord, I can drop down into the depths of freedom, creativity, purpose and fuller expression, chomping on the bit to do so. It was a deflating catharsis for me when I was at your last Speaker’s Intensive w Datta. For the first 2 1/2 days, my confidence was building steadily and peaked at an emotional epiphany. I was welling up as I imagined being at my best, most powerful Self, in command and in the moment at one with my audience, totally committed, ready to give up my old and embark on a new path. Holy Shit. I was feeling it! It was true! Yes. It was happening!
Then all of a sudden I crashed and found myself spiraling down the rabbit hole of negative self-talk, caught in the web of doubts, wanting to run away, give up, escape, and it seemed that that special moment is gone for however long, and remains elusive and almost random, waiting for more lucky moments.