Here is a tricky question to answer:
When are your complaints valid, and when are they simply distractions because you are scared?
If you are making a leap, taking a risk, or growing larger in some way, it’s always a little scary to that ‘small part’ of yourself.
If you are not observant enough, that small part can take over and get you into a mess. One way to keep yourself stuck and not live your true purpose with a fully activated heart is to create small challenges around you that you can complain about.
Check out this short video where I describe the dynamic I’ve been seeing recently that keeps you and those you love stuck in the ‘mess’ and the fear. It has a lot to do with what you complain about. We saw it happen at every event we have run on the international tour we are about to complete.
In the video I also share one way to turn your fear into personal power if you are willing to become more conscious about how this dynamic runs you.
Watch it here and let me know what you think below the video. Do you agree or disagree with what I share? I would love to hear your opinion.
Much love,
Anger is fear’s bodyguard and nitpicking is a low level expression of anger. I think you are spot on with this observation.
Thanks for this, Rachael Jayne! It reminds me of something I learned when working with toddlers and babies… often, right before a big developmental shift, they get really cranky and irritable! Then when the shift happens, like when they learn to sit up, or walk, or whatever, it lets up.
I appreciate seeing it as a sign, and so to be able to ask myself whether something bigger is going on.
Thank you for this mind opening observation. It creates a new insight in me.
Thanks once again for holding us accountable for all of our words and actions and reminding me to bring a deeper level of understanding to everyday situations I might have otherwise looked at quite differently.
Well said! I am out of my league on a daily basis right now, stretching to grow, and I do notice that I am more easily bothered by things that normally don’t even hit my radar, and also, more easily distracted by minutae tasks. Great to call this out; it is clearly about being outside my comfort zone, and yet I needed to hear it.
Wow, I hadn’t thought about this, but I agree. What a great cue for me to stop and get back into the energy I want to be in versus distracting myself with crumbs on the countertop!
Have the attitude that everything that happens is absolutely right. That means if you get upset, about anything, its an alert, a wake up call that there is something for you to look at. So I agree with RJ. Take notice when you are upset about anything, and look at it. It’s a great tool. Don’t let it get to the point where it needs to be a Mac Truck to get your attention.
I know that when the date was approaching for me to go to Santa Ana for the Art of Feminine Presence intensive, I was feeling very hesitant to go and getting grumbly about everything, all the way up to Friday morning – the first day of the intensive. However, I said before I left on the trip, “Because I’m feeling really negative about this, I have a feeling it’s going to be good for me.” And it was.
This video is really helpful. Many emotions came up for me watching it. I felt the excitement calling me. Then my fear surfaced around being left out, being the only one left behind. This also showed up this week with a visit to my sister. I feel a real paralyzing energy pulling me back.
Now I see a pattern of each time I feel momentum, and then it gets interrupted, I have stepped into this lifelong pattern of quicksand.. I also see baby steps of risk even in the fear though. I am sitting with the fear now! Grateful for this video💜