Feeling separate and different from others is often where judgment and fear begin.
What’s one of the earliest examples of separation we experience?
It’s with the Opposite Sex.
I’m a girl, you are a boy. Girls are smart, boys are rough.
What you say about the opposite sex can give you huge insight into why your life, and particularly your relationships, are the way there are right now.
Take my challenge in this week’s Awaken TV episode to explore your beliefs about the opposite sex and let me help you shed some light on why the opposite sex relates to you the way they do.
IMPORTANT: Just so you know, the opening lines in this video are NOT my beliefs.
Watch the short video above and pay closer attention to your judgmental beliefs about the opposite sex this week, especially if you are saying to yourself right now, I don’t have any judgmental beliefs about the opposite sex. You might need to dig a little deeper.
I’d love to hear what arises for you with this week’s challenge. Post a comment below.
Much love,
I am with a great woman whom i care for deeply, but my beliefs are affecting her and me, most importantly they are affecting her.
What are my first steps to defusing my beliefs about my partner (women in general)?
Hmmm.. that’s a good question, Anthony- it sounds like I’d need more info to really help you with this. But what I can suggest off the top is try to remember that the person you are with is one woman- not all women. Also try getting back to the source of when you starting deeply believing in these beliefs you speak of.
I’m sure we will talk more- but try those two easy steps first.
Thanks for your post,
RJ
rachael jayne! your videos are so positively charged and are definitely worthy of repeat viewing for each clip here was so ‘on’! thank you for this and I am now tuned in to your channel. Hugs, Kare
Thank you, Kare! How nice of you to post this.
RJ
Hi Rachael, I know it says a week but something clicked to me right away. When I feel great and I feel really sexy and i want the whole world to know it!… instead of holding that feeling and going with it I will act smaller or dress more conservatively because I have this belief that if I flaunt the way that I feel and dress in a more sexy fashion, I will automatically attract the wrong attention from men. Men will take advantage of me, and will disrespect me. Now that I think about it, I believe that it is for this reason I have attracted men that I am not physically attracted to. I defend myself by keeping myself in a neutral/invisible state.
Thanks, Helene for your post. This sounds like a big aHA for you! I’m very happy to hear that this video helped in some way with that realization. Keep us posted as you work through this and discover new ways of being in relation to those you want to attract!
~RJ
Very good starting point for developing an understanding. I used to have problems relating with girls until well into my adulthood and I discovered that women are people too! As I continued to grow (and get older) I eventually discovered that each one is an individual and unique. I have some female friends who are very feminine and some who are decidely non-feminine. I also have several male friends who are very feminine. I try to relate to each person as an individual, not as a member of a group.
Labels are the beginning of a problem and can lead only to pre-judging. Race, gender, age, national origin, political direction, education, occupation, material status, sexual preferences, income or wealth status, or hair color all can lead to forming an opinion about a person that is totally wrong. Let’s eliminate labels for groups of people and see them as individuals. Not all blonds are empty headed, but a few sure are. Same is true of bald people, brunettes, and any other label.
Thank you, Hugh for your post and sharing your thoughts. How you have decided to view and treat people individually is wonderful! :}
~RJ
Hi Rachel,
thanks for your wonderful videos! Yes I have pre-conceived ideas about men for sure but am now getting aware of them and that’s a start I hope… Our believes unconscious and consious seem to follow us around. As you said even as a child we’re getting used to them until they become part of our core beliefs.
Thanks, Anne, for your post. Good for you for becoming more and more aware of those beliefs. As you become even more aware, you’ll probably decide which ones don’t serve you anymore, and you can free yourself from those.
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~RJ
I want to attract a masculine man but I’m afraid that alpha males don’t like intelligent women. Can I be smart and still attract a strong masculine man?
I have the same problem, and in addition, I know I feel superior to the men I want because I am smarter than them. I don’t want to patronize them but really don’t know how to act toward them.