Has anyone broken trust with you recently?
Have you been in an unfortunate situation where an important relationship has gone sour?
When this happens it can hurt, and you can spend endless hours of wasted time going over in your head why you are “right” or what you would say if you had the chance.
I believe we all need time to feel angry. But if you are ready to move through some of the pain that you are carrying about what happened, and you are just not quite ready to forgive them, here’s your first step to freedom.
Please share your insights below. What parts of the interaction with this person are you willing to own?
Are you ready to commit to forgiving yourself?
I’d love to hold that space for you.
Let us know if there are any questions or challenges you are facing that you’d love us to shoot an Awaken TV episode about. Post them below.
Thanks for sharing!
Much love,
Hi Rachael Jayne, timely video as a good friend of mine is currently going through the problem you covered today. I will make sure to forward your video.
That said, a question I’d love you to cover on the show is: how to increase our wealth consciousness so that we are able to charge and receive the financial abundance we know (rationally, but not in our hearts) that exists out there?
Warm wishes,
Elsa xx
Thank you for your post, Elsa. I hope that this video is of some assistance to your friend.
And thank you, also, for your request to cover “how to increase our wealth consciousness.”
We will put that on our production consideration list for sure! That is a big topic for many people.
RJ
Hi Rachel and Elsa, I am interested in how this “wealth conscious” in terms of money, relates to a “gift economy” or “gift culture” of energy exchange? How can we increase our wealth consciousness, and grow our businesses-with-purpose, in a way that includes people who do not have access to the cash?
Great idea Elsa, I will put that on the list for sure.
Dear Rachel,
thank you so much for all your interesting comments. Yes I’ve been betrayed and yes I should have known before because I did know about it but thought that it would be different with me…
My question to you is: how do we know that we won’t repeat the pattern again and again… and that we’re totally healed or at least have learned our lesson?
Sincerely,
Anne
Great question Anne. You never can really know right now if you will or won’t repeat the pattern. It’s up to you and I to tell the truth to ourselves about people all the time. Will you have the courage to catch yourself when you KNOW that someone can’t be trusted as their past behavior has shown you who they are? It takes courage.
Wow, Jayne, this is an issue I have been dealing with all year. Even though I took responsibility early in the year for my part in allowing myself to get suckered into another business venture lead by this person who already once ruined me financially with another business venture, I still have anger, hurt, and fixed attention on blaming him for my downfall. I have not been successful in moving on with full attention on another venture. Today, I was contacted by someone else he got involved in the business, to buy them out. It brought up all the anger again. I am flabbergasted I was contacted by someone who he brought into the business to put me out of business. But, they may not be aware their actions created my downfall. I have struggled severely all year with lack of abundance, discouragment, and financially strapped and unable to move into the bigger game I truly feel I am destined for. I will do as much work as I can to forgive myself and tap into my resistance to forgive myself, and move on.
Thanks for sharing Sabrina. It sounds like a very tough situation. Yes, forgiveness of yourself first.
Yes, Jayne, . It’s funny how things will “show-up” for us to integrate and acknowledge on our path to enlightened and purposeful living. It was and is fortuitous for our growth that these things happen. Now we know or see a pattern, or our resistances, and can work through them to a broader aspect of ourselves. This latest contact gives me a chance to hold my tongue, not react, or react, or choose…what do I want. It reminds me of my WHY…why did I let this business go…why I did not fight. It also showed me that I was correct in my assessment of what would happen if he let someone else take my business away from me. I knew they would ruin the market for my business, and in one year, be getting out. It still amazes me they have come to me to bail them out, after they ruined my business. But, again, it also may be showing me, it is time to work my magic, and rebuild. Perhaps. Or time to move on to something bigger or different. It definitely showed me I am still holding resentments and that can’t be too healthy for my body and soul. Sometimes, those disappointments give us a chance to show compassion, and understanding, instead of rejection. It also gives us an opportunity or an excuse to examine that relationship and how best it serves, or who mit serves, and if it is complimentary to our well being any longer. I am now asking myself: Am I playing victim, do I want to play victim, or am I in a VICTOR state of mind?
My take away was,
nonresistance comes with forgiveness.
Resistance comes with non forgiveness,
Thank you!
Thanks for sharing lisa.
It may sound strange, but I think my problem is that I am too forgiving, which gives the person in question repeated opportunity to abuse the trust again. It is also because even though it’s happened before (before yesterday when I was stood up on my birthday), since it is not part of my behavioral and moral repertoire, I simply can’t believe that people would act in demeaning and disrespectful ways for a little advantage or simply out of selfishness. I am not sure how to change it, but the only consequent conclusion to draw is to withdraw completely and stay away from people who give me ‘that vibe’. Which, however, would also mean that the field of ‘friends’ or ‘acquaintances’ will narrow yet even further. In that sense, my responsibility would be to listen to my intuition when it gives me warning signs about people, and as absurd as it sounds, I have to be more selfish to not be taken advantage of again and have to set better boundaries. In the end, it will be about forgiving myself for the disappointment I experienced for allowing people like that into my life for a variety of reasons instead of going my own way following the whispers of the heart. I hope that’s not too convoluted and make sense.
Thanks for posting this!
Yes, it makes sense. It’s about forgiving yourself right now more than the other person.
Hello Rachael, thank you for great insight here. My comment My action about involving with that person ,even though knowing a high probability that it was going to hurt, maybe help in someway that person or beyond. Maybe it is about doing a good action knowing it is good and so doing it for God. This way there is no attachment for a person and/or for a result.
Thanks for sharing Pamela.
Thanks Rachel, very useful. Interesting, I have just been meditating on the phrase “Resistance is useless!” which I’m finding wonderful to help me surrender to what IS… and go with the flow.
Hello Rachel!
I trust you are well today!
Really lovely to connect to my heart in forgiveness. I was able to hear the answer, ‘my part is to see how I enjoy being the savior and it’s okay to let that one go, I can just be me’~ The energy around the savior was a great high for me. I have been looking over the Duality Wheel by the Divine Pollination Hive, learning about owning core emotion (sad, mad, fear and how the opposite of those emotions are joy, peace and power). I’ve been teaching a class named, ‘Shadow Play’ where I teach what I’ve learnt~ the quicker I’m able to own my emotional core, the quicker the energy dissipates from my shadows and trying to gain energy from people and situations.
I really enjoy your statements about owning your energy and I would like to hear more about that.
Thank you for your service and your wisdom! Shine on you glorious diamond!
P.S., I would dearly appreciate if you’d have a twitter icon available so I am able to repost your messages to my twitter page. Blessings!
Thanks Mimi! I appreciate this very much
Hi Rachael,
Gosh — I’m right in the midst of an identical situation right now. Friend of over 10 years — turns out she was thinking all kind of thoughts about me that I’m still in disbelief over that came to a head when we were considering going into business together. Everything happens for a reason!. It’s like she’s never known who I am. And then I look back, and see all of what I allowed to be ‘ok’ when our values were just too far apart. We come from different places, and see with different eyes.
I took responsibility for my part of what wasn’t landing with her, but realized she is unable to hear or see me. There’s a gap in our spiritual growth, and I’ve learned not to step on someone else’s path. Share in small doses…if at all. I made the mistake of trusting someone who wasn’t on the same page.
I just wrote a blog on forgiveness because it is something I teach, and needed to do also. Forgive myself first before I could forgive her. I didn’t feel betrayed this time – I made this mistake with another friend 5 years ago where I had to walk away. Different circumstances, but my pattern of over-trusting. This time I see it so clearly – that for my closest connections our values need to be aligned on the basics – what trust really means to me is not judging each other, otherwise I need a healthier distance between us. Lesson learned.
I still remember your practices of ‘going home’ to center myself – my light globe, and miss your feminine illuminating energy. Big hugs, and thanks XO
Thank u so much Rachel Jayne for this repost. Missed it the first time probably because I didn’t need it right then. But I do Now! I recognize much in the post about being so forgiving to other people. And yes now it is the most about forgiving me. Just a few days ago I realized that what happened had nothing to do with me. In the sense that I am good as I am. If what happens hurt it is not that I should have done differently or behaved differently. It simply happend to me as it happened to others before me. Forgiveness is what is needed and the knowing that I did not do something wrong ( for trusting in love is never ever wrong!). For i would make the same choice today, even knowing the hurt would come…… and the self forgiveness makes the pain a lot Less! 😍. Big hug to u RJ😘
Thanks so much, Rachael Jayne. Wonderful timing on this!. I’ve been feeling really upset with an old friend because I’ve realized that she’s been very self-centered in almost all of our interactions over the last couple years and that although I believe she loves me, she’s really not very interested in me or in much of what I had to say. I’ve been feeling bad about it and that I really don’t want to spend time with her and I’m getting ready to talk with her about how I’ve been feeling. The lesson here for me is that I have not been feeling good about it for a good while – at first I wasn’t very conscious of my feelings and that when I started to become conscious of them, I allowed the situation to continue without speaking up sooner. My takeaway is that I need to challenge myself to speak up sooner in situations like this and I need to forgive myself for not doing so sooner. I’m going to contact her today.
Loving the videos but When are you going to write another book the first was brilliant, but a second is needed now for more advanced feathers on Powerful and feminine, or powerful and masculine 🙂
My 2nd book will be released in early 2017! Thanks for asking and for your lovely comments. I’m very excited about it.
Hello!
Thank you for being their for others