It was crippling.

I used to compare myself to other women constantly — and I mean constantly.

I would get to know a beautiful woman, and couldn’t get my attention off her. I’m embarrassed to say this, but I would become so fixated on her face and her body that I’d become depressed because I could never measure up.

I would do the same with outgoing women who seemed to easily connect with others, and in my mind the shy, introverted self inside of me could never be that.

This became even more pronounced when I joined a weekly practice about 10 years ago called Tantric Dance of the Sacred Feminine. Much of that practice is about ‘witnessing’ other women in their beauty and power and appreciating them for that. I would try to appreciate other women but it was hard to give a true appreciation, because I was so fixated on myself and my envy.

Looking back, I wasted so much time and so much of my life force comparing myself to others and trying to figure out if I was ever going to Be Enough.

Something massive has since shifted, but it didn’t happen overnight. I wanted to give you a short version of the ‘witnessing practice’ that changed everything to see what happens to you when you do this. It will take about 90 seconds.

I had to train myself to focus on ‘her’ and not me. I had to focus on the questions: “What do I appreciate about this woman?” “Why do I see her as so wonderful?”

Healing the ‘Shadow’ of comparing myself and feeling in competition with other women was a huge reason why my work called Art of Feminine Presence® asks women to witness other women in their gorgeous, vulnerable feminine power and work with what arises for them.

Here’s the 90 second practice. Watch the video I created with world-class photographer Don Hajicek, and as you see every woman in this montage, I want you to focus on how stunning she is and how unique she is, without any focus on yourself.

Even if you have seen this before, please watch it again with these questions in mind.

I’d love for you to tell me what you feel and notice below the video.

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