Sometimes I go to bed thinking “who am I kidding?”
Who am I to tell people they can build the life and career they desire when I’m still struggling with some of the very things I teach?
It plays heavy on my heart and makes me feel like a fraud.
The next day I wake up and receive touching emails and notes through Facebook saying how much I have affected others’ lives. Then I feel different.
So — am I an inspiration or a fraud?
I personally know a lot of great people who make a significant difference on this planet who ask themselves the same question.
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You are an inspiration Rachael Jayne!
You are not a fraud. Don’t let your imagination and thoughts tell you differently.
The question is easy to answer: As long as one is honest, one is not a fraud.
So TRUE, Rachael Jayne. We are all imperfect versions of perfection and need each other. Being a fraud helps me remember that I still have a LOT to learn, and continue to trust in the Divine Power that I have given my life to. This is humbling, generous, real and rewarding. My heart still aims for the prize of sharing the Divine Truth that becomes revealed to me so that others may experience the JOY in HIM that I know. That joy is experienced in my fraudulent and evolving self, and it is so worth it. Blessings, Lisa Hamil
Actually, if you really study Shadow work, Rachael Jayne is right – she (and WE) is both. But it’s okay. Noone can be all light, all the time. So as long as we accept the shadow part of ourselves, we can live with full authenticity, which I think Rachael Jayne does quite well.
When I get the fraud shadow, I sit with it. It might be a few days. I really put focus on where it bubbles up. Usually, the shadow comes from a former experience of someone saying something to me, or it is my own mirror of self reflection.
The part where someone says something is easy. Usually it is something that person needs to learn, or they would not have said it aloud.
When it comes down to facing my own self-reflection, I must face something deep inside that says I am not worthy of this experience.
When I feel that I am not walking the talk, I am usually not. I am not using the practices that I share with others. Upon acknowledging this, I can now re-focus on what it was that was so important that I share it with others: my experiences.
Stopping and realizing that I my experiences count for something, for myself and others. Life is a journey for the students, and when we teach, we also become the student. If we teach what we learn, we grow within our mind, body and soul.
This is a good one for me this week as I just had a conversation with a friend about wanting to celebrate what I’ve accomplished but also feeling like I’m a fraud. I was, and still am, questioning whether I really got my clients the results they wanted, even though I know I don’t control the result, I only influence it. But there are still times that I could have done more, or should have communicated better, or could have offered a longer-term package to really get the results (often 3 months just isn’t enough)!
The benefits of being a fraud are that I’m motivated to keep improving, that I am imperfect and therefore relatable to my clients, and that I will keep putting myself out there even though I don’t always have all the answers.
Whew, that’s a toughie! Thanks for bringing it up, Rachael Jayne!
When my “Skeptic” shows up and accuses me of being a fraud (or too big for my britches), I have learned to thank her. She is wanting attention for a reason – and I thank her for driving me to be excellent and sit with her awhile. I have learned to not debate with her, or to ignore her, because she only gets louder then.
I know I’m not perfect – I’m good enough, maybe even excellent. My Skeptic seems to want perfection because she is afraid. Sometimes we have to be gentle with her. 😉
The tough times with Skeptic is when she literally thinks I should RUN AWAY because I am not up to the job. The fun part is that when she/we have that crisis of confidence, that is when the job before me is just big enough to make me rely upon faith, and moving forward helps me grow in my ability and confidence. So she is ALWAYS a help to me, in her insecure kind of way. I just have to make sure to invite her along on the journey so she knows she is wanted.
Good topic!!
You are an inspiration! You are authentic and I love that about you. I know that I teach what I have to learn. Call me a fraud then…right? No . . .Sometimes, I think to myself while I’m teaching others, that I am such a fraud. There are times when I’m helping women love themselves and learn to make self loving choices in the area of food,, while I’m day dreaming about my next Cacao dark chocolate bar. But, recognizing our inner Fraud is the gift we also give to others, as we allow them to become authentic in themselves. Thank you for modeling that for me, dear Rachael Jayne! xoxo
Loved this and the slideshow at the end!
I take comfort knowing that while i’m in a human body, i’m unlikely to be anything but imperfect.
The positives of being a fraud are there if you are in a place of true service still and are humble – we don’t have to share all our faults, but we don’t lie about our level of achievement either. It helps others to realise that we as leaders are human too, that we’ve tasted all that we teach, but perhaps don’t always eat from that plate permanently.!
this subject is very inspiring to me, very relevant to what i live;
i find two aspects :
— accepting the “fraud” in me means accepting i am not perfect … i am teaching, i know what i am teaching, i am practicing what i am teaching, but sometimes i just cant or i fail because i am a student too !
a teacher of mines used to say “i am not a master, think i am like your elder brother, i have been on the road a bit longer than you, thats all, i can show you the way, but i also may fall” …
— detecting the “weaknesses” that makes me feel like “fraud” in front of students gives me more motivation to improve, to work on this part, so as not to be a fraud any more and integrate the lesson contained in it (clear?) – actually students are motivating me to improve 🙂
— i think i would rather call fraud, simply being honest 🙂
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This one seems straightforward to me. When I identify with my ego-self, with my personality and take credit for all that floods through me there is a sense of being a fraud. When there is no resistance to the shining light radiating within me I am an inspiration and a blessing. The confusion is in the “I.” It’s essentially semantics.