Admit it, feeling like you failed sucks.
I have not evolved past feeling deeply disappointed when I fail to meet my goal with something I really want.
This week I shot a video on my process of how I pull myself out of feeling so down after feeling like I’ve failed. I use this with my clients, and I thought it would probably be a timely reminder for many in our community.
If you’ve been beating yourself up at all lately, watch the video here.
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Wow, Rachael Jayne, this is so perfect. I love this video and it is EXACTLY what I just needed! I have been busy writing my book for the last three years now and it is getting to the point where I am sending it to the publisher chapter by chapter (translating it back form English to Dutch) and right now I am sooooooo disappointed in myself for not being able to get it JUST right!
And your video made me realize that I got stuck in a goal (sending in my last chapter in two weeks) instead of treasuring my commitment. Thank you so much for this insight!
I can so feel how all three steps that you mention are extremely important. Really glad you shared them. A wonderful answer from the Universe 🙂 Blessings from Wilka
I’m so glad this was what you needed today Wilka! You’ve got this! I can’t wait to hear how the book turns out! With Love, Rachael Jayne
I fail all the time, especially as I’m in a place of growing my business.
When I fail I allow myself to feel disappointment- that’s something that’s hard for me but I have learned to experience my feelings. Sometimes I write letters to my feelings if it feels challenging to allow myself to feel it, or listen to music that matches my mood.
The next step for me is learning from the failure. What worked? What didn’t? Why? What can I learn from this? I may ask for help with this step, talking it through with a friend or colleague- or my business coach! 😉
Then I move into next steps. What is the action I need to take next? What is the next right thing? As a type 7 on the Enneagram, I am always moved to action. This is the easiest part of failure for me- moving forward!
Great tips, Rachael Jayne. I appreciate your wisdom and insight- specifically in our recent coaching together!
Thank you very much Rachael Jayne. It was just in time. I went to a function and
Met a guy I liked and we hit it off but I felt I failed since after talking at length
He felt pressure to mingle by 2 others who interrupted so I felt I lost chance
Or failed to exchange info perhaps. But I recalled the lessons in the Course
And felt that they worked since I applied them.
So I will let it go and keep plugging and trust that it can happen in the right time.
I appreciate this tonight.
Regarding faillure it really helped me several years ago when I was listening to Anthony Robbins on one
of his earlier tapes. He said there is no such thing as failure–there are only results. If you don’t like the
results, do something different to get other results. It just really helped me not to think of a mistake or
not doing something well as a failure but rather only as a result. It did take some of the emotion out of the situation. Thank you for all your wisdom and excellent practical help.
Rachael Jayne! Just what I needed to be reminded of! Would love to share my experience with you! Love, JW
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Awesome message Rachael xxx I had my first intro session last night with 4 friends and really gave it my best shot – in that moment. The feedback from them was amazing and I realized how much I can improve just by being willing to fail and grow, fail and grow, fail and grow….I love the emphasis on allowing the emotions, then returning to your commitment and understanding that ‘shit will happen’ and that is the where the adventure is.
Thank you, Rachel Jayne! I have been dealing with feelings of failure or projecting my feeling of failure onto
others and not knowing how to deal with their feelings. It was interesting to hear what you said and see that you’ve experienced these things too. I do tend to get stuck in not wanting to feel the sucky feelings. Its so hard not to. I like what you said about commitments, not goals, and I do that sometimes but I bumble into it more than do it systematically. I really like your videos and enjoy your presence. The short, powerful nuggets like this suit me. I’ll have to take a workshop with you someday!