We all have money habits that keep financial abundance at bay, or at least stress us out when we think about money.
This week, I want to talk about what I believe is the worst money habit of all.
Datta and I are both had this habit and it was one of the reasons we struggled financially. We would not have the business we have now if we kept this habit.
After you watch this short video, I want you to ask yourself two questions:
#1: How does this habit play out for you?
#2: Why are you being stubborn and keeping this habit when you know it doesnโt work?
Please post a comment or your answers below the video, Iโd love to talk more about this.
Much love,
I am an avoider of my money responsicbilities.
I am avoiding having to show-up powerfull, and probably forginess of my familly money traumas.
I am avoiding money issues because of my fear of life being expressed throught relationships with others.
thank you for posting this video, it has been very helpfull to become aware of this problem.
May God Bless You,
Manon Laurin
I am avoiding making a plan, planning to a forecast, looking at what’s coming in against that plan. Why? It takes too much time. I don’t want to fail. What if I make a plan and then don’t even get close?
I really like your share… I also procastinate, why because it takes time and huge effort… May be I also do not want to fail ๐ isn ‘t it a childish protection?
Can you please explain in more detail what you mean by ‘avoider’. I don’t get it. What do you avoid when you’re an avoider? (Maybe I’m not an avoider if I cannot understand what you mean by it….?)
Hi Navah, Some examples of an avoider would be someone who doesn’t look at their bills, doesn’t pay attention to what they are spending, says they don’t care about money, doesn’t know what they are making or what’s in their bank account. Those are just some ways it might show up, but basically, it’s a person who avoids paying attention to money.
Thank you Rachael Jayne, now I understand the idea. And indeed it looks like I’m not a typical avoider. Probably I’m more like a spender, combined with a ‘monk’ on a more sub-conscious level, which I find hard to tackle. But not having much money at least limits the ‘spending’ (because I’m not an avoider so much).
That’s very good expanded explanation… Thank you Rachel…
Hello, I am very interested in comming to the Melbourne event.
I am with respect questioning the money back offer and the difference between the enrolment form for the USA and Melb.
I would like to know the big picture.
Your offer of money back on attendance is that a full dollar refund or in kind?
Is there more to this training, and is it complete
I would like to know the marketing behind this please.
Great questions, Diane! I know it’s kind of strange to offer such a great deal on the event, but we just really want to get this information into the hands of as many conscious people as possible. I promise it will be an amazing value! You will receive a full dollar refund for your deposit when you attend the event. It is a complete training within the 3 days, though there will be options for some people to continue on with us in further programs if they want more. But the event itself is a stand-alone training and you will walk away with things that you can implement right away. We can offer it this way because we know some people will choose to work with us after the event. We look forward to seeing you there!
I am avoiding my relationship with money and making it work with me because it means I will have to deal with the numbers, balance and calculate.
Why do I avoid that relationship? Because I feel that money in relation to me is a reflection of my abilities and potential – I am afraid of not being good enough so there will never ‘be’ enough money and never be a good enough Anastasia.
Thanks for this video. The questions really brought out my why which reflects my biggest #1 fear: not being good enough. This makes sense to me now and I believe I CAN and WANT to change it.
Thanks again,
Antastasia B.
Thank you so much Anastasia for being willing to share here. I think a lot of people will be able to relate to you.
Much love,
Rachael Jayne
I absolutely relate to this, and i want to tell you dear Rachael that since one and half year that i am following you and learning so much with the webinars and awaken tv, my relationship with money has totally changed, i accept now that i love to receive money, i even love to do accountancy (i hated it !!) and as a magical alchemia, money is coming to me and the farm… still a lot to work on, yet big steps made, and hand brake released ! So i am VERY grateful to you for that ๐
Om
I am an avoider, absolutely!
I think that my sturbborness has to do with the fact, that I am afraid of not being good enough, and I don’t want to get in touch with these feelings; it hurts. It’s like I am saying to myself: I just want to play… money doesn’t exist – like when I was a little girl! Don’t wanna feel the responsability, that gives worries… something like that. In my childhood, everything was about lack of money, not enough money, worries and disputes… like money, responsibility and to be a real grown up is not funny. I saw my mother used and stressed, it was painful and I did not want to live a painful life!
Of course, I know it is completely childish!
So, it’s about money = worries and not feeling good enough, it’s both.
Thank you for this video and these questions. I sometimes think about these questions, and then I just push them away… but I want to work on it and grow up ๐
Love Pernille
An Avoider, without doubt! I know some of the reasons, and most of them began when my ex made a threat to me ‘I’ll make sure you have nothing for the rest of your life”. The circumstances were traumatic – he hit me literally into the gutter, although I realise he didn’t intend to do that! I’ve done loads of clearing on this, because for a long while the flashbacks haunted me. Now, there is no emotion attached to it, it is just a fact `i am recalling.
However, I admit to living in fear of him and what he would do if he saw me being successful. This has been a strong factor in my ‘playing small’. As long as a I stay under the radar, do nothing to attract attention, he’ll leave me alone.
And even as i typed that, I was reminded of the main reason my marriage ended – he was incredibly jealous of my success in my job. I was working at a senior level for a charity, doing lots of public appearances and that had progressed very swiftly to TV and radio slots, and meeting some pretty big time celebrities. He hated it, and it was the catalyst that led him to an affair.
So much time has passed since then, but to this day he still holds this against me. It is all my fault, nothing to do with him. He was the poor victim!
I have self sabotaged for the past 6 or 7 years. I know I’m not here to play small, yet I’ve allowed myself to become as ‘poor’ as he’d like me to be. Yet, inside, I don’t feel poor! When I muscle test for wealth and abundance i get very positive results. People assume Im wealthy too! That has been the case since I was in my late teens – a lot to do with my confidence and presentation.
I actually think I am scared of money! It poses a threat to my ‘safety” – that does sound so stupid, but my ex did such crazy things in the years after our separation that I know he is capable of unspeakable acts. I can see that links to avoidance! I am not only avoiding earning it, but I am also not allowing it to find me in other ways.
Writing this has been cathartic – I’ve turned up some inner stuff that I hadn’t recognised before. I know the theory inside out and backwards. I also know that we harbour so much we are not aware of, and its in questions like this that we discover more to release. So, glad I watched this today. Thank you.